The 10 Commandments of Dating for Men – by SirSquirt

A guide for men who lead with presence, attract with power, and never chase approval.

Modern dating is a paradox: more apps, fewer connections. More access, less intention. Men today face a unique battlefield — one where swiping has replaced pursuit, and shallow validation overshadows deep connection.

Women have changed. Culture has changed. But that doesn’t mean you lower your standards — it means you raise your skill. In a world where fewer meaningful relationships are formed, the man who knows how to lead, speak, and satisfy will always stand out.

This isn’t about chasing women. It’s about becoming the man that women don’t want to walk away from. When you know female psychology, when you understand her anatomy, when you master giving her a squirting orgasm — the dynamic flips. You stop pursuing, and start attracting.

Because nothing is more powerful than a woman who desires you so deeply, she pulls you into her bed. That doesn’t happen by chance — it happens by mastery.

Whether you’re the leader or the muse, the driver or the magnet — dating is where your energy speaks before your words. These 10 commandments  aren’t tips. They’re laws of attraction, rooted in timeless polarity and modern self-worth.

By SirSquirt

1. Lead With Intention, Not Insecurity
   Most men enter dates hoping to impress. Hoping to be enough. That energy alone disqualifies them. Women feel when you’re unsure, when you hesitate, when you hide behind pleasantries or try to guess what she wants. Leading means you set the tone, take responsibility for the energy, and invite her into your world — not the other way around. It’s not about control, it’s about confidence. Make decisions. Choose the place. Set the vibe. The moment you defer out of fear is the moment she starts to test your leadership. And that’s when attraction begins to die.
   Ex: “Let’s meet Friday. 8 PM. I’ve got the spot.”

Story:
Alex, 33, used to ask women, “What do you want to do?” on every first date. He thought it was being polite — until one woman told him, “You don’t seem like you know what you want.” That hit hard. He started choosing the place, setting the time, and never looked back. His confidence? Doubled. The women? Responded.

Reflection Exercise:
When was the last time you led the plan instead of waiting for her input? How would it feel to unapologetically choose the place, the vibe, and the energy of the evening — without waiting for permission?

2. Express, Don’t Perform
   Most guys enter dates like it’s an audition. They rehearse jokes, memorize lines, and try to impress their way into her heart — or her bed. But women can smell performance a mile away. They know when you’re doing a bit instead of being real. Expression means presence. It means saying what you think, owning your emotions, and not filtering everything through the lens of “will she like this?” When you’re grounded in who you are, you naturally draw in women who are aligned with that frequency. You don’t have to dance for attention — your vibe is the invitation.
   Ex: “You have a presence that’s hard to ignore.”

Story:
Jake had watched too many pickup videos. On his first dates, he’d try hard to be witty, to look “alpha,” to dominate conversations. But something always felt off. One evening, he decided to drop the act and simply speak his truth. “You intimidate me a little,” he told her — and she smiled. “Good. Now I know you’re real.” From that moment on, he stopped performing.

Reflection Exercise:
What’s one thing you often hide or fake on a date? What would change if you just owned it, calmly and unapologetically?

3. Create Tension — Then Hold It
   Sexual tension is not built through escalation — it’s built through restraint. Most men rush to touch, kiss, escalate. That’s not seduction — it’s strategy without awareness. Real attraction lives in the unsaid. In eye contact that lingers one second too long. In silence that’s felt, not filled. In a subtle lean-in and then a pullback. This is the art of holding space. Let her wonder. Let her feel you watching her with hunger — but without desperation. The more you can sit in that energy without needing to resolve it, the more powerfully she’ll respond.
   Ex: Hold her gaze. Let the silence work for you.

Story:
Ryan was used to jumping straight into action. Fast compliments, fast touch, fast kiss. But one night, he met a woman who didn’t lean in — she leaned back. Instead of pushing, he mirrored her rhythm. Their eyes locked. Seconds passed. No words. And she said, “This… is hot.” He realized tension isn’t made with hands — it’s made with patience.

Reflection Exercise:
Can you sit in silence with a woman without reaching to fill it? Try maintaining eye contact for 5 full seconds on your next date — and notice what rises in you.

4. Protect Your Energy Like Your Wallet
   You wouldn’t throw money at a business with no plan. So why do men pour time, attention, and emotion into women who aren’t even open? She’s constantly busy. She flakes. She’s hot and cold. That’s not a challenge — that’s a warning. Your attention is currency. Your presence is valuable. If she can’t match your consistency, your clarity, or your vibe — pull back. Don’t invest in potential. Invest in alignment. A high-value man knows when to walk, not because he’s cold, but because he values peace more than pursuit.
   Ex: “I move where the flow is mutual.”

Story:
Ethan chased a woman for three months. She gave him just enough to stay interested — but never met him halfway. When he finally stepped back and gave that energy to someone who was fully present, he realized how exhausted he’d been. One-sided energy isn’t romantic — it’s self-abandonment.

Reflection Exercise:
Where are you giving more than you’re receiving? Write down three women you’ve pursued — and ask yourself if they truly matched your energy.

5. Invite — Don’t Convince
   The moment you try to persuade her to choose you, you’ve already lost frame. A powerful man doesn’t beg for attention — he offers a space that’s too compelling to ignore. Stop explaining yourself. Stop selling your value. Show it. Live it. The right woman will feel the difference between a man trying to win her over and one who’s simply extending an invitation into his world. You are the experience — she’s either ready for it, or she’s not. Either way, you don’t chase. You select.
   Ex: “If we’re not on the same vibe, no pressure.”
6. Prioritize Mission Over Emotion
   She’s not your purpose. She can join your mission, inspire your vision, amplify your direction — but she can never replace it. Men lose themselves in women when they don’t know where they’re going. That’s when drama begins. That’s when she starts to feel unstable. Ironically, the more you center your life around her, the more unattractive you become. Purpose is the ultimate masculine anchor. If she sees that your path is non-negotiable, she will either rise to match it — or respectfully bow out. Both are a win.
   Ex: “I value us, but I never abandon my path.”
7. Hold Frame Under Pressure
   You will be tested. That’s not a flaw in the process — it’s the process. Women test because they want to know if your energy is solid or if it folds under pressure. If she pokes at your ego, challenges your boundaries, or tries to stir emotion, she’s not necessarily trying to sabotage you — she’s looking for your center. Can you stay calm? Can you listen without reacting? Can you be the eye of the storm? If the answer is yes, she’ll melt into you. If the answer is no, she’ll feel like she has to lead — and that’s when attraction dies.
   Ex: “You’re allowed to feel that. I’m not here to control you.”
8. Compliment Essence, Not Just Appearance
   She’s heard “you’re beautiful” a thousand times — from guys who didn’t even look her in the eyes. You want to stand out? See something deeper. A woman’s true power is in her energy, her way of being, her presence. Notice how she carries herself. How she looks at you when she’s comfortable. How she expresses without saying a word. Compliment what most men miss. It tells her: “I see the part of you most men overlook.” That’s when she remembers you. That’s when you linger in her thoughts long after the date ends.
   Ex: “There’s something rare about your energy.”
9. Always Be Willing To Walk
   Power comes from detachment — not from being cold, but from being rooted in self-worth. When you need her to like you, you give away your center. When you stay out of fear of losing her, you compromise your values. A man who knows his worth doesn’t threaten to leave — he simply doesn’t stay where respect is missing. You don’t have to raise your voice. You don’t have to explain yourself. You just move differently. And in doing so, you either inspire her to rise — or reveal that she never intended to match you.
   Ex: “No hate — I just don’t force what doesn’t flow.”
10. Make Her Feel Safe — Emotionally and Physically
    Safety is not weakness — it’s power. A woman can only fully surrender into intimacy when she feels that you’re solid. Not just that you won’t harm her, but that you can hold space for her emotions, her desires, her wildness. If she feels judged, she’ll close. If she feels pressure, she’ll retreat. But if she feels your calm strength, your present attention, your unapologetic desire — she will open. Physically. Emotionally. Spiritually. She will crave the space you provide, because in that space, she gets to be all of herself.
    Ex: “This space between us? I guard it with respect.”

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